A friend and I were talking the other day about the lost art known as *thank-you* notes. He was thanking me for sending him and his wife a thank-you (They were the ones who gave us the armoire that I posted about HERE)! I told him that he wasn't suppose to thank *me* for a thank-you note! The thank-yous would never end if we continually thanked each other for the thank-you! ;) He commented that he and his wife value getting thank-you notes and send them as well. He noted how it seems to be a lost form of etiquette nowadays. I agreed.
It's terribly unfortunate that a simple act of gratitude often gets skipped. Why is that?
Occasionally, I will still receive a thank-you note in the mail for a wedding gift or baby shower gift that was given (but even those don't always happen!?). Of course, I don't give the gift in order to *get* a thank-you...but when one isn't received, it does seem a bit rude. I feel like manners have just flown out the window sometimes! My mama taught me the importance of writing thank-you notes when I was growing up...and it is something I have continued and tried to teach my children as well.
I know postage can get pretty pricey...but I think it is best when a thank-you is sent in the mail. Handing it to the person (just to save postage) seems cheap...especially when you are trying to sincerely thank someone for something they bought, made or did for you. I think it seems to say that whatever that person gave or did for you wasn't worth that stamp. The point of a thank-you note is to show gratitude to someone for their kindness. It's *worth* the stamp it takes to mail it. If you are unsure of the address of the intended recipient, don't just thank them on social media or email...find their address out...even if you have to ask them directly.
Something else I believe is important when writing a thank-you note is taking the time to write neatly. Nothing screams ingratitude more than a sloppy, I-wrote-this-in-five-seconds-flat thank-you note! Whatever kindness the person showed you, it deserves a decent amount of effort put into thanking them. **Keep neatness in mind when addressing the envelope and putting on the stamp too! Appearance matters when you are sending a thank-you!
Keep track of what gifts you are given. For instance, at Christmas, keep a list of the gifts you (and the rest of your family) are given and from whom. That way, after the season has quieted down, you and/or the children can sit down and prepare some thank-you notes. If you keep track of the gifts you are given then you can be specific in your thank-you note. This shows that you truly *do* appreciate whatever kindness was given/shown to you (and not just some generic "thanks").
You can find an etiquette guide on writing thank-you notes HERE. Do you write thank-you notes? Why or why not? If you don't already, I encourage you to start...and make sure you are teaching your children to do so. Having a humble, thankful heart is part of your witness as a follower of Christ.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on this! :)
Linked to: Titus 2 Tuesdays