Monday, April 11, 2011

As the rain rolls in...

The house is quiet. Chris and the children are at Passion Play Practice, at the church (the performances are this weekend and next!). I finished a book, I was reading, today. I got a lot of housework done, knitting *knitted*, laundry washed, schooling *schooled* and baking done! Since I have a bit of time, I thought I would share a little from yesterday and today.

The children enjoyed the warm weather spending much time outside, playing, yesterday & today! Jaxson, writing letters in the dirt...

Sunday morning breakfast was sugar pecan muffins. (Just a simple, basic muffin recipe with chopped pecans added and sprinkled with sugar before baking!)

They were all enjoyed...perfect for a tasty breakfast on a busy, getting-ready-for-church, Sunday morning! We didn't finish them all yesterday, so they made a great breakfast today, as well!

Supper for Sunday evening was an egg & cheese pie...I didn't measure anything! ;) I mixed up eggs, grated cheddar cheese, milk, some homemade bread (broken up), and a little of ground dry mustard and baked it inside a regular pie crust! It was good! It would have been better with some bacon or sausage mixed in, but since we didn't have any...I just used what I had! It's always fun to try new things when cooking! ;)

My new apron, that I mentioned in THIS post, arrived today! I just love it! :)

Oh, Oh....and I am so happy to be able to tell you that we are getting eggs *again*! The girls hadn't really stopped laying...but they kept finding ways to escape the chicken run fence (people who say chickens aren't smart don't know *our* chickens!)...so they ended up laying in odd places and we couldn't use eggs we found randomly. They could have been layed an hour before, or days before. There was just no way to know. So, Chris went out, determined, and fixed every possible place the girls could escape from, in the chicken run. So now they are nicely contained (although you can tell they are a bit annoyed not being able to be completely free) and we are getting eggs again! ;)

I made some more bread today...

Some of which I made into monkey bread...


The rest of the dough made two loaves of bread. People will ask me how many loaves of bread I make a week...and I tell them it just depends on how much we eat or if I give a loaf away etc...but usually 2-4 loaves...give or take. Often, I get a look of astonishment and a comment such as "I don't know how you do it" or "Wow!". I must be completely honest....it really isn't difficult to bake bread....nor is it time consuming as the most time is taken up during the rising time and I can do many other things during that time.

I guess this is another reason why I have such a heart for mothers to be at home. You can take the time to do things like this. Making things from scratch is helping to keep all those terrible preservatives out of your family's diet. Plus, who doesn't like a home-cooked meal?


This used to be the norm. What happened!? Ok...I'm going to go out on a limb here (in love)...but what *if* more mothers stayed home to care for their husbands, children and homes. With jobless rates like they are in our country, the openings that would appear could end up with more men in these jobs...being able to provide for their families. We, as women, don't have anything to *prove* to men (or each other). We don't have to (and shouldn't try to) be better than men (or each other). What is wrong with being a woman? What is wrong with being home and having peace and joy in that?

Does my life seem mundane or unfulfilling? Do I appear to not have enough to keep me busy, challenged and rewarded? It's not about being perfect, it's about trying your best. Let me admit to you...I have not always made a good loaf of bread! ;) Mine started out as bricks! Practice makes better, though (not perfect...but close!)! I have not always done things well...(and there are still oh-so-many things I am working on) but I work at things that are important to me.

Homeschooling is *very* important to me. Is it always easy? No, it isn't. But the difficulties are worth it! Being home with my children is also very important...as is baking, making a comfortable home, cooking, knitting (as a worth-while hobby), gardening, canning etc. I fall short in absolutely *every* area...but continue trying my best, as unto the Lord.

Let me encourage you...if being with your children is important to you, you *will* find a way to be home with them. Many (many, many) say they just can't afford it. This is (except certain circumstances) simply not so. It's that most don't want to "do without" anything. What is it worth to you....? Your children's only-young-once lives or to make money?

It saddens me, greatly, when young children have cell phones! Parents say it is to keep in contact with their children! I don't sit in judgment....but just have a burdened heart. I don't feel we, as mothers, should ever be away from our children so much that they need a cell phone just to keep in contact with us!

I am willing to say that probably many people who stop and visit me here and are reading, right now, fall into at least one (or more) of the things I mentioned, above. I am not writing to demean, hurt or discourage you in any way. I am just so afraid that so many women will one day, come to realize that they completely missed their children's childhoods! We blink and the time passes...you can never get it back. It is my greatest hope to see mothers, with respect for their husbands (as the provider) and a love for their children, stay home...nurturing hearts and keeping the home for her family.

A couple quotes I have posted, previously, but feel they are so appropriate for here, and now, as well:

"You have a lifetime to work but children are only young once."
~Polish Proverb



"I often wonder why people have children if they don't have the time, energy, or desire to raise them."
~Rebekah Teal,

And, if you haven't before, you may enjoy reading THIS from my sidebar's "pages".

If you have come here and been hurt in any way, I sincerely apologize, as that was not my intention. Sometimes subjects, such as this one, are difficult to talk about. I know that *I* can't change anyone's mind. God can convict you...but only *you* can respond. From my spot, I can only encourage, to the best of my ability, because:

Dost thou love life?
Then do not squander time,
for that is the stuff life is made of.
Benjamin Franklin

And if I may...change the word "life" to "your children"...Do not squander one moment you have with them...life is made of those moments...and my God and my family *are* my life! May I die, one day, leaving behind a treasure of memories for my children. And I know, in the time until I die...I will be holding those memories close to my heart, as well.

Please be encouraged. Please pray for me, as a mother, and I will do the same for you. Thank-you for coming by. Please feel free to share your heart with me (my email is on my left sidebar if you would prefer it than public comments).

Lovingly,
Katy
He must increase, but I must decrease. ~John 3:30

34 comments:

  1. Amen to that Katie. Being home is so so worth it. My mother stayed home with us even as teens and I am home as well with my children. It took us 8.5 years to conceive our first child and now the Lord has blessed us with three, our latest is 9 months and I had her at 40. Anway, with all that we've been through to have them there's no way I will let anyone else raise them. We don't need brand new clothes, we get most of our clothes from yard sales and thrift stores or majorly on sale and Walmart or Kmart. I don't get my hair done or nails done and we don't have a fancy car but what we do have is soooo much more important than "things", we have our children at the best times in their lives at home with us. God bless you Katie.

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  2. You are so sweet and correct about time slipping by us. I am so thankful that my husband put his foot down about me staying home and that God opened my ears and heart to it. The moments we share as a family are worth more than any amount of money! Have a wonderful Tuesday!! Blessings! Lisa

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  3. I, too, am a happy, blessed stay at home mother. We have sacrificed many material goods for me to be a homemaker, but it doesn't matter to me. I often encourage, and have mentioned before on my blog, that I believe women should turn their hearts to home. I refuse to allow someone else to raise my babies. I love my role in this world!

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  4. Katy,

    I agree with you wholeheartedly. I always think of what a blessing moms are missing not being home with their children! I'm so thankful that I've been home with mine and I wouldn't trade it for anything!

    Blessings,
    Tammy

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  5. A second Amen to that Katie...
    so enjoyed your post... and all
    the wonderful comments from
    everyone.... ;_) Mary Beth I love
    shopping at Thrift Store for all
    jeans etc....

    Blessings to all....
    Hugs Trish-Ladybug

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  6. I think what a lot of SAHM's don't realize is that they have like-minded husbands who support their choice to stay home. My husband would laugh if I said I wanted to quit work and stay home. It's just not gonna happen. I make a lot more than he makes and my job provides the health insurance for the family. I think a big part of the problem today is a society that pushes the "female power" mentality. I was educated in a Christian school growing up, but never once was I taught the merits of the role of the Christian wife/mother. Choosing a career was pushed on all students, males and females alike.

    It does kinda hurt when a woman who has to work outside the home is chastised by one who is fortunate to not have to work. Thankfully, one of my children is already grown and my daughter is a teenager now. I had my son out of wedlock when I was 19. It's been a long, hard road. Not every mom can stay at home. You ladies are blessed. Please remember that.

    And I meant no disprespect toward you, Katy. You're my sister in Christ and I'm blessed by your posts...truly. Just sharing with you my heart. Hope that's okay.

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  7. I agree with you totally Katy. Before I was married I had the career. I always knew in my heart that I was destined to stay at home and look after my family. I am very blessed to be able to stay at home now and look after my daughter as well as homeschool her. I love being at home and never dream to be anywhere else.
    God bless you.

    Melissa

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  8. Katy,

    I agree with this post. God opened my eyes and changed my heart. I am so thankful that God gave us children to raise. I did not always think like this. God has truly change my heart.

    For many years I made more money than my husband but my husband stayed home and home schooled the children for 6 years. Now, I home school the children. I am enjoying home schooling them. We have made many changes in our lives in order to be with our children. I had to ask myself what is priority in my live. We downsized our house and our expenses too. We don't have insurance with an employer. We have and individual plan which, I think gives you a tax advantage.

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  9. Girl....you hit the nail on the head! I so agree with your post. If we got our lives in God's order, we would be content with our role as wife, mother, and home keeper. (I like home keeper because I don't know how to make a home. LOL) And content with what we had. My husband has always left this up to me, but he said that he noticed that our lives are much less hectic and stressed with me at home. I like not having to stay up til midnight doing laundry . I remember those days, before kids, when I worked a 40+ hour job and came home and did all the housework too. Some may disagree, but I believe God grants extra blessings and patience to moms who take their job seriously. Love your photos. Have a blessed week. ~ Ruth

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  10. Beautiful post and beautifully stated ;- ) Being home with my children and being a wife are my first priorites. Although, I must say it was not always that way. It took the Holy Spirit to convict me of my selfishness and humanistic tendencies when it came to caring for my family early in my marriage.
    GOD is merciful though and oh, so patient. PRAISE HIS name!

    Thanks again for the post!

    Amanda
    Matthew 6:33

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  11. Being a SAHM is wonderful, and I've done both, as mentioned before, but that being said, it isn't always possible to be a SAHM, and a lot of moms work because that is what is best for the family, financially, health insurance wise, etc....I am now looking at returning to the workforce, now that my youngest is almost 14. It's great when it is possible to be a SAHM...nothing better, but that isn't always what is best for the family...if the mom is the one with the higher education, and better paying job. My DH was a stay at home dad for a bit when the kids were younger...that's okay too.

    Just my opinion :)
    Marion

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  12. Amen!

    I've just been thinking about that question - how do you do it? I find myself thinking it of others and they often ask it of me. Hmmm, I think there is a post brewing there! :)

    We made monkey bread this weekend too - yum!

    Blessings on your day, sweet friend!
    Monica

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  13. Wonderful post and so much of it I agree with you....I am thankful I was a stay at home mom to my now grown children....they have wonderful memories because of it...and so do I :)
    I am enjoying my visits here very much....blessings to your sweet family.

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  14. Great post Katy. I agree wholeheartedly!

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  15. I am a working Mother. I have HAD to work every day since I was 18. I took 6 six weeks off when my daughter was born. I would love to be a SAHM but cannot. Not everyone is able to do that even if we make the same sacrafices as those of a one income family. We never know others situations until we walk in their shoes. I believe I am an even better mother to my daughter because I do work away from home.

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  16. Hi Katy,

    I just found your blog about 2 weeks ago or so. It is so lovely and very encouraging. My children have grown very very quickly. Way to fast. I can personally attest to the fact that I am convinced that it was just yesterday that my oldest daughter (now 19) just cut her first tooth. I can still see her sweet face and smell her sweet smell. Sometimes now when I get a look at her (when she comes home from college) I can still see the baby. Only I know these things.

    I have to say. That over the course of the last 19 years of being a mother (I have 4 children), I chose to stay home, and we homeschooled, and it was hard and financially difficult (to say the least), it was well worth it. There was a period of a few years where things had changed to to life's constant changes, and I had to work 2 jobs for a long time. I have always been frugal, but when I was working, it was so so hard to be frugal. I would see waste everywhere. And everything had to be bought because I couldn't take the time to make it. For me it was terrible. However, I did what I had to do and have grown from the experience and the children have also. Everything goes into the equation of their growing up. Now I am back home again.!! Hallelujah! I thank God for this. This is where I am meant to be right now. And now that I am closer to 40, I have a lot of homemaking years of experience behind me. No, I don't have a baby to nurse and hold all day anymore, but now I can explore the more time consuming homemaking endeavors, that always had to get put on the back burner when I had babies.

    So you are right it can be done. Where there is a will, there is a way. In God's time.

    Christina

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  17. I work fulltime overnights. Homeschool, bake bread, snacks and homecook meals everyday. Our children are loved just as much and those whose moms stay home. So please do not assume that because we have to work we are not loving mothers who don't care for their family.

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  18. Well said Katy! I know that many don't agree, but as keepers of the home if we don't stand up to make a move toward home who will?

    I feel that just not working is not enough. Moms need to stay home and take care of their families. I can't tell you how many moms are stressed out and say they don't have time for baking, cleaning, laundry and such, but have time for baseball, ballet, two or three days out of the home for playdates or homeschool co- ops. It has been on my heart for a while about how busy familes have become.

    It is not always easy walking to the beat of a different drum.

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  19. I so agree with you Katie! I could go on and on about these things, and more.

    Our two kids go to public school, but I don't like it. Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and be who I am now and choose to home school, but of course that is not possible. My husband is not on the same page about homeschooling now, and the kids like school, and also I don't feel like God has placed it in my heart to jump into it. But I think a lot of school rules are wrong and the way teachers sometimes have to teach. Not to mention class sizes. My daughter is in her second year of half day kindergarten. She was too young last year. The rules were changed back when my son was 4 so that kids could start Kindergarten at a younger age. We chose to keep our son out until after he turned 5, but our daughter is such a social butterfly that we let her go when she was 4 (but would be turning 5 only a month into the school year.) [Schools are also so desperate for money and that turns me right off. I know it's not the schools fault, it goes beyond that.] At home at least you can teach your child in the best interest of THEM individually. To cater to their learning needs. Anyway, I think I got a little off subject there, sorry about that. ;)

    But I also know there are families out there that don't have both parents and the mom has to work. Or there are circumstances where both parents do need to work to provide. Some families need the benefits their jobs provide too. I believe we should be doing God's Will and when he convicts us we should obey. If He should place it in my heart to work instead of being a SAHM, then I would. God convicts each of us differently! The way of life for one family is going to be the same for another.

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  20. oops I meant *** is NOT going to be the same for another.

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  21. To those who felt hurt or discouraged by my post, I didn't mean for you to feel that way, at all, and hoped you read that in my words.

    Anon. and other working mothers...in no way did I mean that because you work that you don't love your children or that you don't try your best. It is true that we don't know everyone's circumstances. Please don't go away feeling hurt....it was not my intention at all.

    Warmly,
    Katy

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  22. Amen to that Katy...I couldn't have said that better!! My 89 yr old Grandma was just saying this weekend that if we would all go back to the time when mothers stay at home and dads all went to work, that we wouldn't see all the problems that we are seeing in the world today. And I happened to whole heartly agree with her!! I'm PROUD to say that I'm a stay at home mom...I wouldn't change my life for all the money in the world!!

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  23. Katy,
    This is another beautiful post. You have a beautiful heart, too.

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  24. Always like to hear about your girls (hen's). My chicks are growing fast. I often add a thought to ponder in my posts. Recently it was "To be in your childrens memories tomorrow you have to be in there lives today). I think moms were ment to stay at home & raise their blessings but from my own life I know it is not always what happens. In my case my husband was not on the same page as I. I worked when we married & he feels I should always work. In this day I believe most men expect this of their wives. I find this sad when a husband / father puts his wants ahead of of his family & their needs. I quite my job right before my youngets turned 1 & almost died. I felt my place was with him & still do. How erver my husband made me ask for my job back. I homeschooled his brother while working 40 hours a week while my husband made it hard on me. I ended up putting him back into public school. 9 years ago I was put off work due to health. This has allowed me to be there more for my children. I could have enjoyed it more when my health was good. However my husband resents me for not having an income & lets me know often he resents being tied down to a wife kids & bills. As another of your commenters remarked not every one has a like minded husband. At this time I can only pray about that as I continue to watch him never be satisfied or thankful for what he has. My children are my life & I am happy with his house for a home that he often tells me to get out of. However his life is his dog & car he bought last October & now wants a newer one & wants to sell his house with no caring as to where the children & I will live. I enjoy your blog & have been encouraged by many messages God has laid upon your heart. There have been times that it has helped me keep my sanity. Continue to let God lead you. Others need encouragement. By the way your apron is pretty. I often think how wonderful it would be to have you as my neighbor. Blessings!
    Lara

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  25. Katy~ Another wonderful post. And you are so right, MOthers should be home with their children and not out working but they don't want to give up the "stuff" they have. It is very sad and those who have to leave a nasty comment about your post and try to defend what they do sure are doing so becasue they know what you wrote is the truth and they are trying to justify what they have chose. Keep up the great posts.
    Blessings,Joann

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  26. Hi Katy,
    I agree with you and i did the same as you. Sadly my own daughter can not stay home as her husband is ill and can not work much. He needs help taking care of the babies from me. My neice works too as her husband was abusive and left them when her babies were 1 and 2. Try not to judge folks such as these. I am sick myself because my daughter has to work. I wanted her to be a SAHM like i was. She wishes that too but MS has taken all that from her. I love your blog and you remind me of myself 25 years ago! You have a wonderful husband who is a good provider. Your kids are adorable ! Beth

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  27. Katy,
    I appreciate your humble response.

    It is comments such as JoAnn's that perplex me. I'm sorry to point somebody out, but I saw no comment here that was nasty or any working mom saying that they're working because they want "stuff". This is a rude, presumptuous and crass comment IMO. One of the most mean-spirited women I've met was a SAHM who was extremely hostile towards working moms. She was pious and looked down on any woman who worked outside of the home. I got to thinking - I sure hope your husband doesn't lose his job one day. But for the grace of God...

    I just felt the need to address that one comment. We should always be mindful that we do NOT know what others are going through and it is unwise to jump to conclusions and judge. We will ourselves be judged one day by the same measure that we judged others. This, to me, is a sobering thought.

    I appreciate all of the loving and kind comments here by other SAHM's. Your families are lucky to have you. It is my prayer that my daughter will be able to, one day, be a homemaker.

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  28. I'm so thankful that you and Devon both have husbands who are supportive of you staying at home. I feel that many of our social issues today would be resolved if the family structure was strengthened as opposed to the breakdown that has occurred over the past several decades.
    We should never judge another wife/mother for being on a different path. I know you were just trying to encourage others, Katy. Often, it seems there is no other way but to think both parents need to work...
    At one time I was working a PT job and needed to resign. I was concerned about how it would affect our family to lose that extra income. The opposite was true, however, and we ended up being better off financially because I was able to be much more careful and thrifty.
    There are women who don't have the support of their husbands when it comes to being a SAHM. Sometimes it's not even an issue of money needs or benefits. Some men think a woman who is a SAHM does nothing all day. What a misconception! I personally don't know how the women who work (especially full time) manage to keep up with their homes, children, church, etc. I no longer have children at home and work pretty much FT and my home and aspects of my life really suffer for it! That's just me personally. I would LOVE to stay home, even at this point in my life... Unfortunately, my husband needs my help to handle the office work for his small business...
    That all being said, there ARE women who prefer to work and don't have patience for their children. There ARE women who are more concerned about what THEY want instead of what their children or husband need. And I've watched friends celebrate as their children head off for another year at school, glad to not have them under foot.
    I also know that there are women who absolutely love their jobs/careers and feel strongly that they are where God is calling them to be.
    I think it's something that each woman needs to pray about and something a couple should discuss prior to marriage. A good pastor who conducts counseling with a couple prior to a wedding is important... To bring up issues that, in the starry-eyed, happily-ever-after world that a young couple can be functioning in, they may never think of, let alone discuss.
    You have to search your own heart, pray and be honest with yourself. We only have one opportunity to raise our children whether we work in or outside our homes. There's no recovering that time and any decisions we make. I am always telling parents (dads too!) to soak up every moment with their children because the time passes so swiftly, even when you're totally engaged with them!!
    When that last day comes, I am not concerned whether or not I accomplished anything noteworthy in the world's eyes. My legacy will be my children... and their children... and their children... And in the end, their Salvation is the most important thing I desire for them.

    Praying for all who commented on this post.... :)

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  29. Katy,

    You can find some encouraging words about motherhood at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home www.proverbs14verse1.blogspot.com

    I so much enjoy reading your blog.

    Blessings to you,
    Tina

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  30. Katy~ Sorry if what I wrote was not appropriate, I was just trying to say that I totally agree with you about mom's staying at home.
    And to your wonderful Christian poster Lorrie, my husband has been without a job for almost two months now and before this last job was unemployed for over 6 months...but we live within our means and save save save when he is working.

    Blessings to you Katy, Joann

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  31. To a couple of the commentors, it is NOT always possible for a mother to stay at home, jobs are lost, bills go up, homes are in danger of being lost and sometimes no matter how much she would *like* to be a sahm it just can't happen. It certainly does NOT mean the mother wants *stuff*! if you are lucky enough to get by then by all means, do it, but if not, you shouldn't feel guilty about keeping a roof over your children's heads and food on the table either:)

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  32. Katie, loved your post and feel your heart. Circumstances are different for everyone, but in many many cases, women who could be home are out working because it is what they know best. You young women are being raised in an environment where working outside is the norm. Staying at home is a hard choice, and requires much sacrifice but so totally worth it. We shopped at Goodwill, grew gardens, bartered, went for walks instead of Disney World, pinched pennies where ever possible, but it has all been worth it. I have been home with kids for 28 years and counting...(2 preteens, 5 adult kids.)We didn't wear stylish clothes unless they came from Goodwill, ate modestly and healthily, and played a lot of board games. My girls are grown and fully plan on 'staying home' with their families. We had these kids so *WE* could raise them as God led us. Its great!

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  33. I was blessed to be able to stay at home for almost 18 years, but then my husband walked out and left me to raise our 6 children. I agree with everything you said, as I know it was meant in a kind spirited way and with all things being equal. One can tell you are a Godly woman, and in no way was trying to make anyone feel badly.
    Hugs Bless and Hugs

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  34. Hi Katy,

    I'm new to your blog, so I am just bouncing around from post to post...I intend to read more of your older posts as time permits. :)

    I share in your thoughts here. I feel blessed to be a mother and wife and homemaker. I've held serveral jobs in the past, but by far, the most rewarding job I've had is taking care of my family and home.

    I enjoyed the photos! Cute apron & skirt! I love aprons! My gramma and great gramma always wore aprons over their dresses/skirts. I have a few aprons, but never remember to wear them. And I always wipe my hands on my skirt! ha!

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I am always so grateful to read your comments! I thank you for the time you took to visit and share your thoughts with me. :o)
May you enter as a stranger and leave as a friend!
Warmly, Katy